Don't `per_peer_state` read locks recursively in monitor updating

Don't `per_peer_state` read locks recursively in monitor updating

When handling a `ChannelMonitor` update via the new
`handle_new_monitor_update` macro, we always call the macro with
the `per_peer_state` read lock held and have the macro drop the
per-peer state lock. Then, when handling the resulting updates, we
may take the `per_peer_state` read lock again in another function.

In a coming commit, recursive read locks will be disallowed, so we
have to drop the `per_peer_state` read lock before calling
additional functions in `handle_new_monitor_update`, which we do
here.