Never generate a `BroadcastChannelUpdate` for priv channels

Never generate a `BroadcastChannelUpdate` for priv channels

Currently we always generate a
`MessageSendEvent::BroadcastChannelUpdate` when a channel is closed
even if the channel is private. Our immediate peers should ignore
such messages as they haven't seen a corresponding
`channel_announcement`, but we are still giving up some privacy by
informing our immediate peers of which channels were ours.

Here we split `ChannelManager::get_channel_update` into a
`get_channel_update_for_broadcast` and
`get_channel_update_for_unicast`. The first is used when we are
broadcasting a `channel_update`, allowing us to refuse to do so
for private channels. The second is used when failing a payment (in
which case the recipient has already shown that they are aware of
the channel so no such privacy concerns exist).