Move a handful of channel messages to notify-without-persist

Move a handful of channel messages to notify-without-persist

Many channel related messages don't actually change the channel
state in a way that changes the persisted channel. For example,
an `update_add_htlc` or `update_fail_htlc` message simply adds the
change to a queue, changing the channel state when we receive a
`commitment_signed` message.

In these cases there's really no reason to wake the background
processor at all - there's no response message and there's no state
update. However, note that if we close the channel we should
persist the `ChannelManager`. If we send an error message without
closing the channel, we should wake the background processor
without persisting.

Here we move to the appropriate `NotifyOption` on some of the
simpler channel message handlers.