Make the `P2PGossipSync` `UtxoLookup` exchangable without &mut self

Make the `P2PGossipSync` `UtxoLookup` exchangable without &mut self

Because a `UtxoLookup` implementation is likely to need a reference
to the `PeerManager` which contains a reference to the
`P2PGossipSync`, it is likely to be impossible to get a mutable
reference to the `P2PGossipSync` by the time we want to add a
`UtxoLookup` without a ton of boilerplate and trait wrapping.

Instead, we simply place the `UtxoLookup` in a `RwLock`, allowing
us to modify it without a mutable self reference.

The lifetime bounds updates in tests required in this commit are
entirely unclear to me, but do allow tests to continue building, so
somehow make rustc happier.