Move most `handle_new_monitor_update` calls to pass the update

Move most `handle_new_monitor_update` calls to pass the update

Most of the calls to the `handle_new_monitor_update` macro had the
exact same pattern - calling `update_monitor` followed by the
macro. Given that common pattern will grow to first pushing the
new monitor onto an in-flight set and then calling `update_monitor`
unifying the pattern into a single macro now avoids more code churn
in the coming commits.