Rework `chain::Watch` return types to make async updates less scary

Rework `chain::Watch` return types to make async updates less scary

When a `chain::Watch` `ChannelMonitor` update method is called, the
user has three options:
 (a) persist the monitor update immediately and return success,
 (b) fail to persist the monitor update immediately and return
     failure,
 (c) return a flag indicating the monitor update is in progress and
     will complete in the future.

(c) is rather harmless, and in some deployments should be expected
to be the return value for all monitor update calls, but currently
requires returning `Err(ChannelMonitorUpdateErr::TemporaryFailure)`
which isn't very descriptive and sounds scarier than it is.

Instead, here, we change the return type used to be a single enum
(rather than a Result) and rename `TemporaryFailure`
`UpdateInProgress`.