Add a new `NodeCounters` utility to track counters when routing

Add a new `NodeCounters` utility to track counters when routing

In the next commit we'll stop using `NodeId`s to look up nodes when
routing, instead using the new per-node counters. Here we take the
first step, adding a local struct which tracks temporary counters
for route hints/source/destination nodes.

Because we must ensure we have a 1-to-1 mapping from node ids to
`node_counter`s, even across first-hop and last-hop hints, we have
to be careful to check the network graph first, then a new
`private_node_id_to_node_counter` map to ensure we only ever end up
with one counter per node id.