Avoid writing `ChannelManager` when hitting lnd bug 6039

When we hit lnd bug 6039, we end up sending error messages to peers
in a loop. This should be fine, but because we used the generic
`PersistenceNotifierGuard::notify_on_drop` lock above the specific
handling, we end up writing `ChannelManager` every time we manage a
round-trip to our peer.

This can add up quite quickly, and isn't actually changing, so we
really need to avoid writing the `ChannelManager` in this case.