Move ChannelMonitor state behind a Mutex

ChainMonitor accesses a set of ChannelMonitors behind a single Mutex.
As a result, update_channel operations cannot be parallelized. It also
requires using a RefCell around a ChannelMonitor when implementing
chain::Listen.

Moving the Mutex into ChannelMonitor avoids these problems and aligns it
better with other interfaces. Note, however, that get_funding_txo and
get_outputs_to_watch now clone the underlying data rather than returning
references.