Use a tuple, not a struct, for `PendingOnionMessage` in bindings

Use a tuple, not a struct, for `PendingOnionMessage` in bindings

Bindings aren't currently able to handle a struct with a generic
which is actually exposed - we map all structs concretely to a
single type, whereas having fluctuating types on a struct requires
mapping the inner field to a trait first.

Since this isn't super practical, we make `PendingOnionMessage` a
tuple in bindings, rather than a struct.