Lean on the holding cell for commitments when updating fees

Lean on the holding cell for commitments when updating fees

Like the previous commit, here we update the update_fee+commit
logic to simply push the fee update into the holding cell and then
use the standard holding-cell-freeing codepaths to actually send
the commitment update. This removes a substantial amount of code,
reducing redundant codepaths and keeping channel state machine
logic in channel.rs.